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Philia

φιλία · fih-LEE-uh · Greek · noun
positiveintensity: mediumtrust

Affectionate regard, friendship, and goodwill, usually between equals.

Definition

Affectionate regard, friendship, and goodwill, usually between equals — a dispassionate, virtuous love covering friendship, family bonds, and loyalty to one's community.

Connotation & usage

Lacks the desire of eros; more reciprocal and virtue-based than storge's instinctive family bond; partial and reciprocal, unlike agape's universal, non-reciprocal giving.

Literal sense

φιλία (philía), from φίλος (phílos, “dear, friend”).

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Etymology

From φίλος (“dear, beloved”) + abstract-noun suffix.

How it has changed

Central to Aristotle's Nicomachean Ethics Book VIII, where philia ranges over friendships of utility, pleasure, and (highest) virtue, requiring equality and reciprocity.

Dispute & caveat

One of five genuinely attested Ancient Greek love terms. See the note on the popular “8 loves” framework.

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