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Despair

[dɪˈspɛər] · dih-SPAIR · English · noun
negativeintensity: highsadness

The complete collapse of hope.

Definition

The complete collapse of hope — not just deep sadness but the settled conviction that nothing can get better.

Connotation & usage

Defined by the total loss of hope: where sadness, sorrow, grief, and heartbreak answer to loss, and gloom, dejection, and despondency are sunken spirits, despair specifically cancels the future. More absolute and final than despondency — “Despair means a total loss of hope; despondency does not” (Century Dictionary). It need not spring from bereavement; it fastens onto any situation seen as past remedy. Note the contrast with desperation, an active, furious struggle, whereas despair “destroys courage and stops all effort.”

Senses & usage

The emotion

The utter loss of hope; the conviction that nothing can improve.

Stronger and more final than despondency.

Theological (the sin of despair)

In Catholic moral theology, the voluntary abandonment of all hope of salvation — treated as a mortal sin.

It contravenes God's mercy, and is distinguished from mere anxiety or low spirits.

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Etymology

Verb mid-14c., from Latin desperare “to lose all hope,” from de- “without” + sperare “to hope” (from spes “hope”). Noun c. 1300 “hopelessness.” The native word it displaced was wanhope.

How it has changed

The core meaning (“loss of hope”) has been stable since c. 1300. A distinct theological sense — the sin of despair (abandoning hope of salvation) — developed in Catholic moral theology. A weakened colloquial sense (“great unhappiness,” “much to the despair of the fans”) coexists with the strong one. No reliable recent-generation shift.

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